Showing posts with label Marye Panganiban. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marye Panganiban. Show all posts

Sunday, March 17, 2013

My girls (or the sisterhood of the travelling sandals)

Being a believer in "inclusivity", I consider them all are my girls: daughters Kimi and Ida, their friends and the toddler who's been described by her mother as a swift temple runner. 

The older ones know how to work the Instagram. Fuddy duddy that I am, I think I have more than enough Net accounts to bother signing up for another so I just grab the photos as soon as I find time to sneak into their Instagrams for a quick peek. My latest viewing confirms my suspicion. They're way too busy relaxing to send a virtual "wish you were here" postcard. But I love how they're loving this summer and wearing its colors on their bodies and faces. 

By this time they should be considering taking the slow, slow boat home instead of the plane. While I'm in Baguio on a "staycation", let me remind them: Carpe diem!

 See you in a few, girls!

Butones wears her deceptively shy smile as she pauses from her temple run.
Half swathed in a towel, my Bit of Mango enjoys a mango macaroon.
The candy corn gang of Coco del Rosario, Marye Panganiban, Kimi, Butones and Ida
Mamay Kimi takes a cooling plunge.
Ida framed, the rice fields and coconut trees in the color of neon green
Ninang Coco (left) with Kimi, god-daughter Butones and Ida the Fair
Little Button in a white hat tries to figure out how boys turn play into real fishing.

Saturday, December 15, 2012

From Garrison, Kai, Rolly, Babeth, Kimi & Ida

Most recent photo of our little singing and drumming girl, Kai/Butones, taken by her Ninang Marye Panganiban

Times have indeed changed. To save the environment, many have chosen to send their cards through e-mail. 

So here's our family message to one and all: joy love peace goodness kindness justness righteousness gentleness. Our tiny one echoes Tiny Tim in the Dickens short novel to all who could hear him around the Christmas table, and she says it in her own toddler-speak, "God bless us, everyone!"

Patnubay and Mabuhay! 

Poem by Garrison Keller shared by a friend

Friday, January 20, 2012

400 @ 400



Tuesday next week, Jan. 24 (my dad Enrique Lolarga Jr.'s 83rd birthday, if he were still around; he was a UST College of Medicine alumnus, batch '53), is "400 @ 400" day or 400 books, published by the University of Santo Tomas Publishing House, to be presented to the University on its 400th year.

Quite a feat Dr. Cristina "Jing" Pantoja Hidalgo, publishing director, Prof. Jack Wigley, her deputy, and their hard-working staff have accomplished since Prof. Hidalgo took over the university press.What I like about this coming event is the venue, a library, specifically the Miguel Benavides Library at the UST campus.

The library is thus described at its website: "The UST Miguel de Benavides Library is housed in a 6-storey building facing Dapitan Street. Seventeen sections and four branch libraries comprise the UST Library. The collection of each section / branch varies according to courses offered by the University. The Library Staff is headed by the Prefect of Libraries and the Chief Librarian. There are 27 professionally trained librarians, 24 support staff and 80 student assistants."

There'll be space to move around, and if my cold and cough (an allergy, don't worry; nothing viral or catching) isn't licked by the 24th, I'll be there in an inconspicuous corner with a box of Kleenex and a jug of water, waiting for friends and family to come by and have a copy or two signed.

This whole enterprise of putting out a book of selected essays is a story of a challenge met. The challenge came from Jing who asked if I was interested in gathering my little Facebook notes and other essays into a book. Not only was I interested, I hired myself an able research assistant, UP Diliman geography graduate Marye Panganiban, who could accompany me to the Lopez Memorial Museum and Library and the Philippine Daily Inquirer library to look for "old words," as my editor Chato Garcellano would put it. Marye, with my daughter Kimi's help, encoded these essays and reports, a whole section of travel pieces from the time when Chato sent me all over the country on assignment.

The OC (obsessive-compulsive) streak of my niece Marga Susi was harnessed as she arranged the essays in sequence to facilitate the layout artist's job. Several times the flash drive I submitted to Jing was corrupted until one afternoon, Kimi and I sat down cleaning my files one at a time till I was able to send a clean USB to UST.

I heeded Gilda Cordero Fernando's advice not to get a more established writer to do the introduction. She had a funny experience when she had a first book of short fiction introduced by someone else. It seemed the intro was unrelated to the contents and it was generally ignored.

She suggested that I get writer friends familiar with my works to submit blurbs, and that's what Chato, Marj Evasco, Cris Yabes, Gou de Jesus and Anna Leah Sarabia did. They didn't need to be sent samples of my work to go over. They were familiar enough with the stuff I've managed to get published over the decades (that really dates me) and turned in their short blurbs by text or email after a day's notice. Aren't women friends wonderful?

One day in late June, Jing texted, "Your book is out!" Excitedly, I made arrangements to pick up my 10 complimentary copies at her home (henceforth, delivered to the blurb writers). I think this was as close as I could get to UST. Throughout the process, everything was done online. The series of USB I would send through a personal messenger or drop off at Jing's house on my way to or from school where I taught (when the Community of Learners was still at its New Manila location).

The proofs were sent to my mother's house in Pasig, and I went over them during a weekend in Baguio. My husband of 27 years cursorily read them, then declared in an offended tone that he would boycott my launch if his name was not moved from the acknowledgment to the dedicatory page (hmmm, this detail should go into an autobiography because I find it funny; my reaction was "Kailangan pa bang i-spelling 'yan?" but the correction was made for fear of losing a prized patron).

I arranged a book reception in my adopted city of Baguio at that bookshop-turned-literary salon Mt. Cloud. Padma and I worked on my modest working woman's budget so we could feed the visitors and book buyers with Hill Station's delicious turrones and flowing coffee. All 26 or 28 books I brought up were sold out that afternoon in July. The others were sold by Nina Araos at her Kitsch the Cook Boutique, at the Alabama art fair in Cubao and at Libreria at Cubao Expo.

My kumare Winnie Velasquez, fellow Paulinian, made a special trip from Marikina to Baguio to be with us, while my grandchild Butones made her public debut as my guest of honor. She wasn't featured on the dedication page; she wasn't born yet when the making of the book was in progress.

Last December, as the Christmas rush got started, Philippine PEN sponsored an authors' talk that had me sharing a panel with Manong Ed Maranan, Mookie Katigbak and Dean Francis Alfar. I arrived early at National Bestseller at Robinson's Galleria to chat with the salesladies.

The store manager said my book was doing well. My heart skipped two beats as I began to think of royalties and imagine Catholic and Emancipated on the NBS bestsellers list for non-fiction.

I asked, "How many copies has your branch sold?"

She answered, "Sampu po, ma'am. Marami na iyon."

That's why I like writing and getting published. It has a way of keeping you humble. I'm sure Dad would've agreed.

Photo of blogger's book courtesy of Rudi Tabora

Thursday, March 31, 2011

Reposting Marye's Letter to Kimi's Daughter

Marye Panganiban is one of my daughter Kimi's dear friends. Like Kimi, she is a geography graduate of UP Diliman. She, Kimi and their friends from college regularly vacation at our house in Baguio on the way to somewhere else or when they need a break from the humdrum of this world. They even go on adventures abroad together.

Marye, just a year older than Kimi, offered safety, succor and shelter to my daughter at a difficult phase in her pregnancy. My gratitude to people like Marye and the assurances of my daughter's other friends that they are 100 percent behind Kimi's decision to be a solo parent is boundless.

While she was between jobs, Marye came to my aid in the summer of 2010. I needed a research assistant for a project. Together we searched for copies of old reportage and personal essays at the Lopez Memorial Museum in Pasig. She encoded the ones I had written from pre-Internet years as we tried and succeeded in meeting the deadline for a book for a university press. Once that book is out, that will be my youngest baby on my 56th year.

That Marye is only turning 27 and Kimi 26 belie the fact how wise these two friends have grown. They're two old souls teaching their elders how to evolve further into humane human beings. Brava, Kimi and Marye. International Women's Month is made for you.

I once saw a poster in, of all places, a toilet. The message was: "Be an angel. Do random acts of kindness."

If there are angels among us, Marye must be one of them.What a wonderful world, indeed.

_____________________________________________

Monday, March 28, 2011

Dear Mykonos,

Any day or minute from now, you might already show up, kick your way out into this wonderful world. And when you do, your momma, her relatives and friends will also be there to welcome you. Do not be surprised how much people will be cramped in a room, eager to see you.

With everything that's happening in the world right now - the earthquakes across the world, particularly the one in Japan, the Libyan revolution, Atom and Patty's breakup, etc. - you might think it's quite an inappropriate time to be born. No. There's no such thing as appropriate or inappropriate time when it comes to giving birth. Your mother carried you in her womb for almost 9 months now, she made a choice, and that choice is you. There's nothing untimely about that.

I want to tell you that it has not been an easy road for your Nanay. The first few months was an emotional roller coaster where hormones were not even to be blamed. She must have cried like she never cried before, spent many nights drifting from one place to another to protect you and herself from unkind thoughts and words. But despite the stress, all the negativity emanating around her, your mother chose to be strong and happy for your sake. This you must always remember: your welfare will always comes first. Priorities have shifted. You are now on top of that list.

In a time where it's easier to give in to adversities and hate, your mother has stood her ground, remained strong, kind and forgiving. So, do not be surprised if you find out that a lot of people love your mother. Your Nanay Kimi is one of the kindest and most generous persons I've known in my life. I am lucky to have her as a friend. Imagine how lucky you will be, too, to have her on your side at all times.

When you're ready to come out, I hope you won't give your mother a hard time. I wish you a swift and easy passage from your little watery world to the arms of the doctor. I hope you cry as loud as you can, move your feet and hands as if there's no tomorrow.

Oh, the anticipation, the excitement of your coming is making us all antsy. Little-mango-no-more, I can't wait to meet and spoil you.

Love,

Tita Marye

Photo of Marye posing by my daughter's swollen belly taken by JUNE TAGUIWALO

Original post can be found at www.tumatakbongpagong.blogspot.com